As an advocate on the study of human behavior, it bothers me not to share this. Human development has something to do with both heredity and environmental factors. It's been debated on for the longest time and so far, the most that emerged on a lot of studies is that social learning, modeling, that "tabula rasa" of Locked are what most people like me agree on.
With my recent exposure, we usually draw out the underlying reasons of a student's misdemeanor from the family system and its characteristics. And we never went wrong...not even once.
But I am face with personal mocking. I'm caught in a situation where I cannot open my mouth. So I choose to write.
Parenting is a lifetime commitment. It's a perfect example of unconditional love. You never quit on your child. You just don't. I've seen my parents looked at me sharply when I did terrible things. My father beat me with his belt back when I was a freshman in college but ended up throwing his ATM card to let me withdraw my allowance. My mother grew an eye bags when I stowed 8 hours away from home but hugged me tightly when I got back after 3 days. They submitted on my hardheadedness when I married a douche-bag and even helped us in making a decent living. After that marriage went sour and that business vanished, I heard their expression of disappointment but they never labelled me with "hopeless case". Instead, they managed to focus on the strength that's left in me and reinforced it. They're not perfect though. But they're never afraid to show their imperfection and are fearless in admitting their faults.
I want to be like them when my children grow old and mess things up. Because I believe in the degree of social formation which started at the very core- PARENTING.
So if you describe your child as screwed. What are you then? ;)
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